Essieb
New member
- Joined
- Mar 10, 2016
- Messages
- 3
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 01/2000
- Country
- UK
- State
- Uk
Hi.Im new on here so hello to everyone. I'm not sure if this was the right place to post this but it seemed appropriate being the thread for venting.
i have been speaking to a friend. My friends daughter is not at all sympathetic or understanding about Fibro and believes her friends Fibro is in her head,hence believing mine is also. Anyway,my friend told me that her daughter firmly believes we should just shut up and get on with it and that I don't really have it,it's just that I need to get out more and exercise basically. I couldn't care less if my friends daughter believes me or not. i know I do. What hurts me is that my friend keeps repeating this to me. I don't need to know. I suspect in all honesty that she agrees with her daughter or else why would she keep telling me this stuff. She then went on to say that exercise is good for it and maybe I'm not doing enough. I told her I'm already seeing a nurse at my surgery and doing physio type exercises. I also said that some days I can't get out of bed let alone move or do exercise but she just kept saying," yes but I'm trying to say you maybe do the wrong ones". :-( At this point I just stopped talking and gave up. I have also been diagnosed with Bipolar and she doesn't really understand that either. Her first comment was ,"but you don't look or act crazy". This is the woman who helped me through some tough times and I feel I owe her a lot but honestly it's becoming harder to understand her lack of compassion and empathy. I don't want sympathy or a medal but would really like her to just stop telling me things I don't want to hear. I know I shouldn't let it bother me and it seems such a silly thing to get upset over but I am sat here crying now. I have a lot to deal with and some days are really an achievement if I even get through it so I wish people would think before they speak.
i have been speaking to a friend. My friends daughter is not at all sympathetic or understanding about Fibro and believes her friends Fibro is in her head,hence believing mine is also. Anyway,my friend told me that her daughter firmly believes we should just shut up and get on with it and that I don't really have it,it's just that I need to get out more and exercise basically. I couldn't care less if my friends daughter believes me or not. i know I do. What hurts me is that my friend keeps repeating this to me. I don't need to know. I suspect in all honesty that she agrees with her daughter or else why would she keep telling me this stuff. She then went on to say that exercise is good for it and maybe I'm not doing enough. I told her I'm already seeing a nurse at my surgery and doing physio type exercises. I also said that some days I can't get out of bed let alone move or do exercise but she just kept saying," yes but I'm trying to say you maybe do the wrong ones". :-( At this point I just stopped talking and gave up. I have also been diagnosed with Bipolar and she doesn't really understand that either. Her first comment was ,"but you don't look or act crazy". This is the woman who helped me through some tough times and I feel I owe her a lot but honestly it's becoming harder to understand her lack of compassion and empathy. I don't want sympathy or a medal but would really like her to just stop telling me things I don't want to hear. I know I shouldn't let it bother me and it seems such a silly thing to get upset over but I am sat here crying now. I have a lot to deal with and some days are really an achievement if I even get through it so I wish people would think before they speak.