Hi i’m 5 yrs in with Fibro now and unfortunately depression is a massive part of it.. iv’e tried all the meds and none have worked , the advice is to be positive and happy to release the bodies only natural pain killer ‘Endorphins’ this is very tricky as how can you be happy and positive when your in pain all the time and have no energy to do the things you love ? .. i now make jokes about everything including my Fibro and it does work 👍.. Pacing on what we call good days helps, slowing yourself down also works which in this fast pacing world isn’t that easy.,talking about it helps especially to other sufferers as i agree they are the only people who understands, supportive friends and family is massive .. you all keep smiling 🙂 ..
Ahoppy, good for you. It seems impossible to maintain a positive attitude when you are in pain and your life has been seriously compromised and you do not seem to have any control over what is happening. It takes a lot of effort, and sometimes you just don't have the energy. Coming up with jokes about it is a great idea.
What I did - on the days I did have the energy, I focused a lot on all of the things that I can be grateful for and made it a point to think positively about my situation, without being unrealistic. The more I did that, the easier it became to remain positive even when I was exhausted and in pain. It takes time and practice, but it can be done, and it's worth it.
Niki, how you cope with it is you learn how. You don't have a choice, so you just learn to cope. The first step is acceptance. Now, acceptance doesn't mean approval, or that you won't still do what you can to help yourself every day, or that you just give up or give in to it. It just means you don't waste your energy hating the problem or feeling resentful about it. this only causes more stress = more pain and depression and anxiety etc. I think of it like being angry and depressed about the weather. Can't change it, so accept it and do the best you can with today.
Now, with Fibro you can do things to make it better for yourself, but the same things don't work for everyone, so you need to use the energy you saved by not being angry or resentful to research and experiment and find what combination of things works the best for you. No one can do this for you. And you also have to just give in sometimes and lie on the couch for one day, and be OK with that as well.