cinderr, I try to remain positive in my thinking because without trying to keep positive, the other choice is being negative all the time that leads to severe depression. I have been there and it is not a pretty sight. I was gloomly and had no hope and my friends faded away. I stayed home alone and felt sorry for myself never once thinking that there could be another choice to take. I hit rock bottom.
I felt totally hopeless. This illness became my main focus and I saw no way out, that was until I went to therapy. My mental health therapist showed me that there is always another choice, like the fact every coin has three sides, the front and back, and side. The front and back are wide and provide many different choices, but I had only chosen the thin narrow edge.
When one chooses the wide flat spaces in choices and throws away the negative thin side, life opens up once more. Yes, there are many things we can not do anymore, and many things we must find a new path to follow, but are we not still better off in doing so then doing nothing at all but feeling sorry for ourselves.
So to you the positive look is not worth considering yet. But many who come here, come looking for ways to feel better and try things that maybe they never considered before. Some things work and some don't, but trying to improve a bad spot in life is a good thing.
I hope something helps you start a path that leads to positive thinking. We all care about you!
