I am a new member. I am 41 and a mom to two young daughters. I am in constant pain. I was diagnosed with RSD after a knee surgery last year, and was hospitalized for a month, but prior to that, I had horrible neck and back pain, and hand pain that had been going on for a few years. When I had RSD, I went on Lyrica, and noticed the back and neck pain went away, and i didn't know if it was from the lyrica, or the fact that i had not been moving because of the knee surgery that had gone wrong. I am seeing a dr for fibromyalgia next week. What are the "pressure points?" I basically have severe neck and back pain, knee pain, hand pain, finger pain, scapula pain. Is that considered fibromyalgia? I have also been being treated for Lyme Disease after my western blot came back positive. Can advanced lyme disease cause fibromyalgia? I feel like such a loser and i can tell my husband does NOT want to hear " I am in so much pain". When i say things like that, his response is "well honey, we are getting older." but- i'm not 80. I'm 41. I'm not in middle aged pain. I am in really bad pain. all the time. I want to ski and play tennis and do pilates and excercise and do spin class, and I literally can sometimes get through two or three days,but then my whole body seizes up and i am in even worse pain for the next few weeks. I am SO frustrated. Lyrica made me gain 30 lbs. I can't bear to gain 30 lbs again. Has anyone tried things that haven't made them gain weight? If i gain 30 lbs, that isn't good for my joints either. Any ideas or things that help I would really really love to hear. My husband is always telling me why don't i "go work out?". I think it's so strange given that i have told him i am in horrible pain. I don't think he understands. There is NOTHING more that i want than to go work out... I don't like being tired and in pain. I feel like i am even more tired from faking feeling good when i just want to lie in bed for the rest of my life and take muscle relaxers, but i don't want to miss out on my children's lives. i have a great husband. i just don't think it's possible for someone to understand what this pain feels like if they haven't been in my body. really.... can anyone help?