Hi Hollie - sorry to hear your plight!
If you have a chronic pain disease like fibromyalgia, like we do, or even just back pain, then it's normal to hurt when we bend down, so for us it's not ridiculous. And it's also common that partners, family or friends don't understand. So we have collected ideas how to help them understand. You will find them if you click
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Before ending a marriage or being unhappy in one I('d) always seek good counselling to find ways of improving the situation or making a good decision if that isn't possible. Also generally I'd recommend
a) not to wait with this,
b) to send out serious warning signs before it's too late,
c) follow those up with some sort of temporary time out / leaving the situation, then
d) first a separation.
We often make it something black and white: We feel blue, see the situation as black, but continue to hold on to it as if it were still white as long as possible and then suddenly plummet into a red and black end. There'd be much more chances and peace if we'd manage to transition all the shades of grey. And that would even prevent most black results, even if narcissists or psychopaths were involved.
(Just talking to my wife about family and friend relationships made me realize those principles apply to many areas of our lives, including in many cases the build-up of our chronic pain diseases or any flares from overdoing it. )
I've no idea what it means for someone to kick the carpet, I'm thinking perhaps the edges of the carpet or it's a rug you're referring to? Whatever: Workarounds could be
1) to just leave be "fixing it" myself, by ignoring or delegating it or
2) to develop better ways of getting down, rather than bending (see youtube on ways to get up off the floor) or
3) to find new ways of improving your body pains....
As you're feeling so sad and alone at the moment, it's great to see you reaching out online. Praps in this situation to continue this offline too, reaching out again to anyone you know or for support from people who know what it's like and/or like supporting others, paid or unpaid. But of course to continue it here or elsewhere online too, whatever it takes to help you feel and get in a better situation.
Not sure if you're coming back to this, but maybe me developing my ideas about it can help you or others find solutions for similar apparent molehills that can quickly turn into mountains - how to "eat an elephant"....