NamelessUser
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- 10/2019
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- MO
Hi, new member here.
My sister has been recently diagnosed, and although it was this October, she's been dealing with pain for at least 4 years. I've been trying to support her as best as I could, but I'm at the end of my rope.
We are roommates, and cohabitation has become difficult recently. She's had really passive-aggressive attitudes (such as taking all my clothes out of out wardrobe, using my clothes but then not lending me hers, etc.)
She's also had difficulties in her studies and uses me to vent. Aside from our conversations being extremely depressing, every time I try to give her advice on how she could deal with her studies better (like recording her classes) she proceeds to go on a 45-minute spiel on why that wouldn't work.
Some of the reasons are completely valid, for example some of the subjects dealing with programming and it being very difficult, or the concentration issues that stem from fibromyalgia, but others go a bit far, like none of her teachers knowing what they're talking about, or all of her classmates being annoying and entitled. I'm not saying that's impossible, it's just that the arguments change every time and when I point that out, she gets mad and refuses to talk to me. If I try to talk to her, she flat out ignores my existence (I should mention at this point that she's 20 and I'm 22, so it's not a child throwing a temper tantrum).
Other times she acts exasperated with me, like I'm stupid, or gets defensive when I ask her anything. At times that behavior gets so aggressive it leaves me with a lump in my throat.
The reason why I mention all of these situations is that I don't know how fibromyalgia comes into play into all of this. I've been to a therapist since May and they've encouraged me to speak out about the things that bother me. I can't do that with my sister because I'm scared she'll feel like I don't support her, which she's told me I do. If any of these behaviors are related to fibro, I'd do my best to take it in stride, but if not, how can I communicate with her that her attitude hurts my feelings?
My sister has been recently diagnosed, and although it was this October, she's been dealing with pain for at least 4 years. I've been trying to support her as best as I could, but I'm at the end of my rope.
We are roommates, and cohabitation has become difficult recently. She's had really passive-aggressive attitudes (such as taking all my clothes out of out wardrobe, using my clothes but then not lending me hers, etc.)
She's also had difficulties in her studies and uses me to vent. Aside from our conversations being extremely depressing, every time I try to give her advice on how she could deal with her studies better (like recording her classes) she proceeds to go on a 45-minute spiel on why that wouldn't work.
Some of the reasons are completely valid, for example some of the subjects dealing with programming and it being very difficult, or the concentration issues that stem from fibromyalgia, but others go a bit far, like none of her teachers knowing what they're talking about, or all of her classmates being annoying and entitled. I'm not saying that's impossible, it's just that the arguments change every time and when I point that out, she gets mad and refuses to talk to me. If I try to talk to her, she flat out ignores my existence (I should mention at this point that she's 20 and I'm 22, so it's not a child throwing a temper tantrum).
Other times she acts exasperated with me, like I'm stupid, or gets defensive when I ask her anything. At times that behavior gets so aggressive it leaves me with a lump in my throat.
The reason why I mention all of these situations is that I don't know how fibromyalgia comes into play into all of this. I've been to a therapist since May and they've encouraged me to speak out about the things that bother me. I can't do that with my sister because I'm scared she'll feel like I don't support her, which she's told me I do. If any of these behaviors are related to fibro, I'd do my best to take it in stride, but if not, how can I communicate with her that her attitude hurts my feelings?
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