Very helpful member
- Jul 30, 2020
- DX FIBRO
I like the point that I imagine you intend - that sometimes we absolutely want people to simply recognise our feelings and autonomy - but surely telling someone what they want is akin to telling then what to do?You want people to acknowledge that you know how you feel, what you can and cannot do, and do not need advice!
Both are things that none of us can know for sure on behalf of another person. The good thing is that advising is not the same as telling. Advice can be taken or left. We can try to advise when we think it might help someone, but that person should feel empowered to do with those ideas as they wish. Sometimes, another person's advice can help us solidify our own resolve, even if it takes us in an entirely different direction.
It's a good insight though; to be able to reflect on whether we want more input or whether we want someone to not shoot down our instincts, or even to tell us that those instincts are valid. Definitely worth highlighting! Of course, sometimes advice can also highlight a path we hadn't yet thought of