Dusty, my heart goes out to you. The most I've gotten out of regular doctors is just blank stares. The turning point for me was when a physical therapist said my response to therapy was just like his fibromyalgia patients. And HE also has fibromyalgia. I found a fibromyalgia specialist through him (yes, a regular medical doctor) who diagnosed me with fibromyalgia, which is important in terms of health insurance claims, etc.
When I was feeling up to it, I started reading as much as I could about the condition. Since this past September I've been following the guaifenesin protocol, which is featured in the book "What your doctor may not tell you about fibromyalgia." There has been one orthodox study on this protocol and its findings did not back this theory. HOWEVER, some have speculated that following the protocol produces ANOTHER bodily effect that does help fibromyalgia. The protocol is generally thought to take about a year, some patients get better sooner, others longer, others not at all. They also say you may feel worse before you feel better.
Why did I decide to follow it? Because my physical therapist, his wife and their mothers all have fibromyalgia, and all improved with the protocol. I'm doing it because I have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
The actual diagnosis was also psychologically helpful because it stopped me from feeling guilty about being sick and tired so often. I stopped trying to "push through." I was known all my life as a doer, a go-getter, but not anymore. At this point, I'm just trying to make lemonade out of lemons. You also have to give yourself an even bigger break. What with Covid and the political turmoil we're facing in the USA, stress is an even bigger issue in our lives. Be kind to yourself.
Have faith that the future may bring better treatments or even a cure! And remember, you are NOT alone....