Hello Gnd97
I don't get to hop on the forum very often because my suite of issues is pretty debilitating but I really sympathise with your post - when I was first trying to find out what was going on I was constantly met with Drs saying they couldn't find anything wrong and inferring hypochondria ... which was very unhelpful. I had (and continue to have) symptoms very similar to yours after a back injury many years ago.
Eventually I was diagnosed with Fibro and a few other diagnoses.
My advice to you is to think about fibromyalgia as belonging in a sort of bucket of all the conditions that neurologists haven't yet quite nailed down or found diagnostic tools for. I've been told by my neurologist that Multiple Sclerosis used to be in this bucket too before medical researchers found a diagnostic tool for it. In any case, there is a lot of research going on now because of long COVID that will hopefully provide some really useful treatment breakthroughs soon.
In the meantime, the best advice on pain management I can give you is to:
- stop trying to keep up with everyone else - its ok to say no
- reduce activity to a manageable level and rest before you get to the point where you are in severe pain
- use sleep hygiene practices to try to get better sleep (have a warm bath before bed, drink some lemon myrtle tea, no screens after 7pm, no food after 7:30pm, consider magnesium supplements, spray or cream to stop cramping at night, and use a sleep meditation app to relax once in bed)
- be very kind to yourself
- don't engage with people who judge you or are not helping you
- trial a few medications in close cooperation with your medical practitioners. (It may also be worth noting that Fibro pain does not normally respond to opiates).
- accept the change - this is the most difficult part - but don't lose hope that you will recover, plenty of people do
- try and find an holistic GP (not all about pills but looking at your whole lifestyle).
I was bed-bound and unable to speak or think properly for 12 months a few years ago - and now I am nearly back to normal function, but it took a great deal of perseverance and research and consults with many Doctors. It does get very overwhelming trying to keep up to date on fibromyalgia so take time out regularly and only tackle things when you feel up to it.
I do hope that helps a little - I know you are probably overwhelmed with all the opinions you are receiving. Everyone has a different journey so its important that you just take away the things you think are useful for you.
All the best
Artizane