Is Satisfying Sex Possible With Fibro?

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cinderr

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Does anyone else have this problem? I was once sexually active, very active, I now have difficulty engaging in sexual activity. Does anyone else have this problem?(Am I repeating myself or what?!)
The problem is movement and changing positions or just getting in the correct position. There is the added problem of moisture-- or lack of it.
Fortunately my husband is understanding and has his own pain, as well.
 

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I must reiterate; sex is painful! I do not wish to think that very fun part of my life is over!
I think if I had a healthy robust active husband and all I had to do was lie back and enjoy it, I might have years of it to look forward to! As it is, we are moaning, groaning walruses trying to find a comfortable position we can both tolerate! What kind of crap is that?
 

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My sex life has gone from active to zero. I have all the aches/pains of fibro and do not know if my sex life will ever return. My hubby is very understanding and does not push it but it has been over a year and I am sure he will get to a point of wanting more. As for dryness my Dr put me on vagifem (low dose estrogen) pill that is used to treat pain and dryness. This pill is inserted into body not taken by mouth and it does help in that area it is just the rest of the pain I have to get under control.
 

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I think it is possible to still enjoy it but you should take a pain killer like medical marijuana beforehand. Some medical marijuana actually stimulates people in sexual ways. Get a sativa strain. That will perk you right up and make the pain go away. Funny how alcohol causes impotence while some weed strains act as ED treatment. Yet one is legal and the other is illegal!
 

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Good sex is definitely possible, you just have to play around! My partner and I bought a book that has so many great positions. It has about a thousand different positions in it, if you can believe it! It's not the Kama Sutra (Sp), but something similar. Some of them worked, some of them didn't. We just found which ones worked for us, and now that's what we do in order to have a great sex life, but also feel comfortable while doing it!
 

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I have no desire for sex. My husband is always making comments about me "getting it on the side" and not wanting to be with him any longer, but that is far from the truth. I just have no desire, I just assumed it was due to all my thyroid issues. Seeing this thread here was certainly not expected! I just know my body is a medical mess and nobody seems to wanna figure it out, the dr's think they can just put me on pill after pill and I'll be ok. I just want to have half as functional as I once was in more ways than just sexual matters.
 

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My sexual life is good at the moment, I've more desire than ever, but I'm just 26. This could change when I get older, well, I think I'm quite sure it while, but meanwhile... I just want to enjoy it. This probably one of the last pleasures I've left, that and indulging myself once a week with junk food! Plus I used medical marijuana for the pain and it's working great, so I really don't feel that bad, the only bad thing is the fatigue!
 

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I have no desire for sex. My husband is always making comments about me "getting it on the side" and not wanting to be with him any longer, but that is far from the truth. I just have no desire, I just assumed it was due to all my thyroid issues. Seeing this thread here was certainly not expected! I just know my body is a medical mess and nobody seems to wanna figure it out, the dr's think they can just put me on pill after pill and I'll be ok. I just want to have half as functional as I once was in more ways than just sexual matters.

Hey there! I'm sorry to hear that, it must really hurt to hear your husband saying that... specially knowing the reason you don't want to do it is because you have no desire to do it. I'm also dealing with other diseases apart from fibro, and I know how hard it is. As far as I'm concerned... I have no thyroid issues, but I do have hormonal issues... I'm a mess! You must really try to find a good endocrinologist, that makes you feel confident everything will be allright.

My future mother in law suffers from graves disease, but she now leads a very normal life. Things started to get ugly when her eyes... well you know! She had a surgery tho, they look almost like normal now. She found an excellent endocrinologist who's really helping her with her thyroid issues. So it's really important to find a good doctor, don't be afraid to ask for a second opinion... and once you find a good doctor, you must really be consistent with the treatment.

Best of luck!
 

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My sex life is great. On average, my husband and I enjoy time together in the bed about 2 to 3 times a week which is appropriate for our age. When we first met it would be for a longer amount of time and also more often. I guess that when you get married, things start to change. This doesn't bother me much.

After doing our "thing" in the bed, I tend to feel great. For example, I am more relaxed and feel happy. The only problem with this is that I almost always fall asleep right after. I noticed that my husband goes straight to the kitchen since he's always hungry right after. I wonder why I can't be like him and always keep my energy.
 

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Does anyone else think that it is easier for a woman to have satisfying sex while suffering from fibromyalgia than it is for a man? Usually the man has to do a lot more of the "work" during the act. So, the pressure is really on us guys. I'd like to hear more from the men on the forum as to what your thoughts and strategies are in regards to this topic. No offense mean to the women.
 

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My sex life is great. On average, my husband and I enjoy time together in the bed about 2 to 3 times a week which is appropriate for our age. When we first met it would be for a longer amount of time and also more often. I guess that when you get married, things start to change. This doesn't bother me much.

After doing our "thing" in the bed, I tend to feel great. For example, I am more relaxed and feel happy. The only problem with this is that I almost always fall asleep right after. I noticed that my husband goes straight to the kitchen since he's always hungry right after. I wonder why I can't be like him and always keep my energy.

Your comment reminded me of my boyfriend, he also feels super hungry right after! He goes straight to the kitchen after that. I fall asleep just like you do, lol. It seems this is very common among men! Being close to our partners always help with our moods, isn't it?
 

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I also find having sex also makes me feel better. I think it releases happy endorphines. I feel incredible and maybe just don't focus on the pain then.
 

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I would like to say that although this topic may not apply to me anymore, it is very important to engage with your huband or partner, in some form or fashion. It is a great way of relieving stress and keeping relationships alive and healthy. I am sure none of you want your husband or wife, partner, to go looking elsewheres for this type of company.

That said, I know that it is often the muscle pain or dryness, that makes it hard to agree to be close, but try by using creams or lotions. Give your partner a massage or allow yourself to receive one. Light massages using oils or lotions can help you to relax. KY jelly, can help with pain caused by dryness. Just lying close and holding one another can help both of you feel loved and wanted.

It is often said that lack of sex or money, is the biggest reasons that relationships end. Keep that in mind and try hard to show your loved one that you need them in your life. Good Luck! :)
 

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Try getting some toys this works both ways.. Maybe different stimulation will help..yes there are days and days where I don't even think about it ..but a least touch your partner intimately. It doesn't have to be sex.. There a lot more was to make each other happy...I've been married for 20 years you learn ..there are lots of stores, web sites etc. there are even home parties for toys. Don't be embarrassed its worth it in the end
Rollinloud. You can lay back and enjoy the ride too.....lol
 

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I understand what you guys are going through completely, I used to love having sex and I still do b the way, the problem is the pain I have to endure every time we have sex. I know in a way its a form of exercise, but the frequencies have reduced and the more dramatic styles have also disappeared.

We have to make do with the comfortable styles and ant time I feel discomfort, I tell and hem and we either stop or change position.

I have tried not to kill sex in my heart so I think positively about it.
 
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