Hi Badger,
That is such a poignant quote! It really hits the nail on the head for fibro.
Interrupting the cycle was key for me in getting a handle on my symptoms. I was afraid of the pain and furious at the physical and mental limitations I was experiencing. The stress of feeling that way was in turn re-triggering everything, keeping me stuck in a really bad way. I spent months in bed, desperate over the pain, weak and exhausted. I regularly had blackouts and would have real trouble speaking sometimes because I just couldn't find the words. I really felt like my life was over!
Finally, I found a neuropsychologist by chance - he was actually treating my stepdaughter - who told me I needed to practice "radical acceptance". I had to stop fighting to change what was happening to my body, and stop beating myself up for being unable to fix it - it's OK that I can't overwrite the things that brought me to this point. I also needed to slow down and recognise my pain, sit with it, and embrace awareness that it isn't a threat to me, no matter how unpleasant it may feel. That was really hard, but I lent into his advice. Acceptance on a radical scale...!
By going through this process, taking up practices like pacing and meditation, and chucking a few supplements into the mix, my symptoms are a fraction of what they were. The beast is still with me every day - I have to be really careful not to do too much, and the pain/fog levels do swing up and down, but it's so much better than it was. Most importantly, it isn't triggering me into a high-stress state all the time, which I think is where the magic happens.
So, in answer to your beautifully thoughtful post, I'll say yes - I do believe it's possible! It's not ideal, and it does take work, but the value you describe is well worth pursuing and there is reason to feel hopeful. The way I see it, for every one of us that finds a way through this - no matter how imperfect - there is then a person who can turn around and help the next one through. That makes it pretty powerful mojo