Hi Patricia, -------- I understand about it getting you down. I have been there, quite thoroughly. The way I tend to look at it now is this:
It is as if you (any of us) are mourning something that is lost or gone. We used to be stronger, had more energy, not always in pain, and now we have lost the ability to be pain free and all the benefits that come with not having chronic pain.
When a person is in mourning, people want to tell you "it will get better", and I really hate that, because the only thing that would really make it Better is if you had back what you have lost! But what it can do --and guaranteed it does --get Different.
With grief, as with something like Fibro, the different it gets has a lot to do with acceptance of what it is. This never means apathy, nor does it imply in any way that you won't continue to do whatever you can to deal effectively with the situation, and even change it if you can. It just means you are not wasting your limited energy in anger, resentment, or depression.
Depression is the worst because the hardest to throw off. I have a lot of experience with it. What I have found is that my best defense with that is actually kind of an offense, which for me means very regularly doing things that get me out of my head and get my body moving. So, walking, dancing, hiking, and not allowing myself to think about what is depressing while I am doing those things. For you it is your own thing --whatever brings you some peace, and gets your body moving.
As Sabrina says, getting down is all part of processing this thing and is really unavoidable at first. But you can learn to manage that, same as managing the pain. We are here to help.
