Yes, it is all too much isn't it? I'm so sorry it has been such a hard year for you. And gallstones too? I've heard those are so painful, I hope you are healing from your surgery well. When my chronic pain first started I was such a mess...actually I still am on occasion
But that first year was really dark, and I wish I could go back and tell myself that there would be good days too. I have most of the other things you mentioned as well, except the bladder and butt pain. My full body pain used to change minute by minute but now it's only my legs that change rapidly, and it's a lot less leg pain than a few months ago. The rest of my pain kind of goes in good weeks and bad weeks, except for my migraine that I have all the time...and the fatigue! oof. A lot of people here talk about heat helping their leg pain. I'd like to try a sauna next to see if it would work for me. I am getting a lot of ideas but it's hard to have the energy to follow through, you know? I think what I'm learning is that, well 1) not to overdue it and read my bodies signs better and 2) that my pain is always changing (I can look back and see the up and downs) and I hold onto hope that even though I'm in a bad year as well, that maybe I'll have some much better years ahead of me as well. The mental stuff is just as exhausting as the physical stuff sometimes. Do you have to be in bed a lot with your fatigue? Are you working? I can't work and I have to be mostly in bed for now... but working hard to take the best care I can so that I can hopefully return to the things I miss. In the mean time, I watch a lot of tv, and keep busy with hobbies when I can. Distraction has become my best coping skill. I hope you can stumble upon some things that work for you this winter. I will be trying new things as well.
p.s. there is a lot of good conversation on Fibro Man's new member post. It helped me to know what drugs other people are on and what things people are trying (like pool therapy!)