vickythecat
Senior member
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2017
- Messages
- 366
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 01/2013
- Country
- EU
- State
- Earth
Hi,
After many years of living as a recluse, I finally started going to doctors and getting referrals to see specialists.
From the 1st doctor I went to; while in a full blast panic attack, these are the remarks she made;
- "you should start working" (yeah because I finished an ivy league university with honors, worked from the age of 17, so that I could sit at home completely broke and feeling useless, worthless? thanks for the reminder doc!)
- "you should get out more, with friends, go on a holiday" (you paying doc? While at it, why not find me some friends too, and a cure for fibro.....)
but wait....
- "you should get a massage, it will cure your fibromyalgia" (cure!!??!! Wow, she should get the Nobel prize!)
- "you should lose some weight" (even after telling her I had lost 10 pounds last year and was finally within the very healthy BMI range!!! Do I need to be size 0?)
Then highlights from my next appointments with other specialists;
- when I told the ob/gyn doctor that these examinations cause me extra anxiety because of my past trauma, she said the following; "60% of women have been raped or sexually assaulted, but they move on. You should too." (wow....I have no comment for this one.)
- the orthopedic surgeon - at least he was very honest - your shoulder is a mess. There is no painkiller in the world for this pain, you should have surgery. BUT a surgery can make things even worse for you. And can take months on the state system, but thousands of dollars in a private hospital. Good luck to you. (thanks doc, no wonder I was feeling hopeless LOL)
I don't know, I somehow expect more from doctors, you know. These remarks are often made by 'normal' human beings, but doctors see all kinds of patients, are trained for many years, (I hope) they exchange people-knowledge among each other, read a lot of scientific literature, stay up-to-date on statistics, treatments, research....but apparently, most doctors simply don't.
I now need a few weeks off to continue with my medical journey. I really need a time out, these visits were really so very tiring and each time I felt like I was being punched in the gut, slapped in the face, and kicked in the butt!!! I need to learn to box better LOL
After many years of living as a recluse, I finally started going to doctors and getting referrals to see specialists.
From the 1st doctor I went to; while in a full blast panic attack, these are the remarks she made;
- "you should start working" (yeah because I finished an ivy league university with honors, worked from the age of 17, so that I could sit at home completely broke and feeling useless, worthless? thanks for the reminder doc!)
- "you should get out more, with friends, go on a holiday" (you paying doc? While at it, why not find me some friends too, and a cure for fibro.....)
but wait....
- "you should get a massage, it will cure your fibromyalgia" (cure!!??!! Wow, she should get the Nobel prize!)
- "you should lose some weight" (even after telling her I had lost 10 pounds last year and was finally within the very healthy BMI range!!! Do I need to be size 0?)
Then highlights from my next appointments with other specialists;
- when I told the ob/gyn doctor that these examinations cause me extra anxiety because of my past trauma, she said the following; "60% of women have been raped or sexually assaulted, but they move on. You should too." (wow....I have no comment for this one.)
- the orthopedic surgeon - at least he was very honest - your shoulder is a mess. There is no painkiller in the world for this pain, you should have surgery. BUT a surgery can make things even worse for you. And can take months on the state system, but thousands of dollars in a private hospital. Good luck to you. (thanks doc, no wonder I was feeling hopeless LOL)
I don't know, I somehow expect more from doctors, you know. These remarks are often made by 'normal' human beings, but doctors see all kinds of patients, are trained for many years, (I hope) they exchange people-knowledge among each other, read a lot of scientific literature, stay up-to-date on statistics, treatments, research....but apparently, most doctors simply don't.
I now need a few weeks off to continue with my medical journey. I really need a time out, these visits were really so very tiring and each time I felt like I was being punched in the gut, slapped in the face, and kicked in the butt!!! I need to learn to box better LOL