Standing up

JukeGen

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Does anyone have any recommendations for comfortable chairs/couches or how to make them easier to get up from? I love cuddling my partner on a night watching TV but I really struggle to get up off the couch. Either he has to pull me or I have to roll onto my front, put my knees on the floor, stretch my back and then push myself up. It seems to be getting worse as the weather gets worse (Scotland 🙄) and its really starting to get me down. One of the many frustrations of something so simple suddenly becoming ridiculously hard...
 

mycatJack

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Hello JukeGen

Standing up became an issue for me way back in 1995, so I completely understand your problem! I haven't been able to sit in a soft chair or couch for many years. Anything I sit in or on has to have a very firm seat.

The one sure thing that helped me was to raise all my seating spaces. I use high, firm cushions for my wooden chairs and office chairs that raise my body several inches. But the biggest help came when a friend raised my recliners 4 inches by nailing 2" x 4" boards to the bottom feet of the recliners. You wouldn't believe how much easier those 4 extra inches made getting out of my seat! (I also bought a 5" riser seat for the toilet. Best purchase ever!)

Also, I use a cane to help me stand. It holds my weight as I rise and keeps me steady as my legs adjust to the stiffness and pain.

But the main idea here is that you can't continue to get off your couch as you have been doing for much longer, and I mean that literally. If your fibromyalgia progresses, as it has for me & so many others, then your arm muscles will not be able to withstand your husband pulling on them because of the pain, and your leg muscles will be too stiff & possibly weakened to lift you from the floor. Even if your fibro doesn't worsen (and I certainly hope it doesn't), getting off the couch as you have been sounds way too painful, and a change is definitely in order!

We all know that there are no guarantees with fibro, but I hope these suggestions help you. After all, no one wants to give up cuddles on the couch!
 

JukeGen

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Hey, thank you so much for your reply! I was definitely getting worried it would get worse because it is really sore when he pulls me up but we managed to pick up a recliner sofa today which is much better already but now I find it hard to close the recliner bit 🤦‍♀️ that is a minor inconvenience compared to the struggle I have been having though! Your comment about raising it is a great suggestion. My grandma had things called elephant feet on her couch which raised it so she could get up easier so I have ordered a set of them and I think I'll put a crutch down the side of the sofa as well to use as you use your cane and hopefully that will help too.

I find this forum really bittersweet; it sucks that everyone else is suffering as well but it's also kind of relieving having people who actually understand what we go through and who can offer helpful tips like yourself :)
 

JayCS

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As I often sit on the carpet, leaning against or twisted round towards the sofa, getting up is even more of an issue for me. Sometimes it can take a few minutes. My wife keeps wanting to help me, but I always refuse. My psychologist reminded me of the best phrase why: Use it or lose it! Why should I get help for doing everyday things, esp. when there's no time pressure, and then put aside some time for doing exactly these exercises to keep as fit as possible? So if at all possible and fibro is your main issue, I'd encourage you to not change your sofa, unless it is causing you pain to sit/lie on, but to use it as exercise equipment. If your stiffness is anything like mine (and I always a wry smile when people talk about 'morning stiffness') it increases the longer you sit/stand/lie down, so keeping it at bay and fit might mean moving around as often and much as possible.
That said the amino acid GABA has decreased my stiffness by 90% and glutamine and 1-2 other supps might help there too.
 

sunkacola

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I am good at getting onto and up from the floor. I have made a point of making sure I keep doing it - I do it pretty much every day. As an artist, I often work on the floor and then need to stand up with something in my hands, so I have a hands-free way to get off the floor that works for me.

Sometimes when someone -- often even someone younger than I am -- says "Gee...I wish I could get up off the floor so easily", I feel like saying to them, "Well, why did you stop doing it?" Of course, I never say that. but I am convinced that 90% of people who stop being able to do that, or something else, stopped being able to do it because they stopped doing it in the first place. I keep doing things and therefore keep being able to do them.

This doesn't apply to everything, of course. And it doesn't apply to anyone 100% of the time, either. There are days I cannot get off the floor without grabbing something. If you have a compromised back, as I do, you just cannot shovel dirt to dig a hole for a tree or you are asking for big trouble. But, there are other ways to get something done - it just might take longer. One shovel full a day, maybe. Takes a lot longer, but it can be done. And with most things, if a person keeps doing it, they will continue to be able to do it even if maybe not as easily or as fast or in the same way or as many times.

A famous yoga teacher I studies with many years ago said, "Women can do anything a man can do - they may just have to find a different way to do it." I never forgot that, and I think it's true for everyone, not just for women.
I think people often stop doing something because it's not as comfortable for them to do as it used to be, or as easy. But that's when you need to keep doing it.

P.S. ---this is not a directive to people to "push through the pain", something I never advocate. But to remember that if something becomes more difficult it doesn't necessarily mean you have to give it up completely.
 
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