cyberpuppet
Member
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2014
- Messages
- 27
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 04/2006
- Country
- UK
- State
- Wiltshire
If there is one word that drives me mad beyond all others with fibro it is the "L" word - LAZY. For me it is either soul sappingly depressing or makes me so mad I overdo things trying to prove I am not and end up with a flare.
When I first diagnosed and being seen by different professionals one of the occupational therapists told me that she hates the word because every case she has seen has involved people who were the opposite - the ones who never stopped, never took a day sick, and who breezed through daily life making it look easy. Yes I was one - the woman with 4 kids who would be up dressed organized with babies and equipment and everything apparently while other mums were struggling to get the right clothes on the right child and I could not work out why people thought it was worth commenting.
How many of you were also busy bees? Never going sick (even when you were), always on the go?
I have had to learn to stop - to do things slowly and to pace myself and rest. When I am at my best I am living life at extended holiday pace - frequently stopping to watch the world go by. What I do achieve takes more proportionately than it would a normal fit person. So I get called (by those who dont know me) lazy - and it hurts. I may be congratulating myself on being out of bed and downstairs but someone sees me as lazy because I am sat in a chair when there is housework to be done.
Does anyone else hate this word - do you get called it. Should it be banned?
When I first diagnosed and being seen by different professionals one of the occupational therapists told me that she hates the word because every case she has seen has involved people who were the opposite - the ones who never stopped, never took a day sick, and who breezed through daily life making it look easy. Yes I was one - the woman with 4 kids who would be up dressed organized with babies and equipment and everything apparently while other mums were struggling to get the right clothes on the right child and I could not work out why people thought it was worth commenting.
How many of you were also busy bees? Never going sick (even when you were), always on the go?
I have had to learn to stop - to do things slowly and to pace myself and rest. When I am at my best I am living life at extended holiday pace - frequently stopping to watch the world go by. What I do achieve takes more proportionately than it would a normal fit person. So I get called (by those who dont know me) lazy - and it hurts. I may be congratulating myself on being out of bed and downstairs but someone sees me as lazy because I am sat in a chair when there is housework to be done.
Does anyone else hate this word - do you get called it. Should it be banned?