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Old 04-04-2019, 12:47 PM #1
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Interest: I am a relative of someone with Fibromyalgia and/or chronic pain.
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Default Confused and blindsided husband

I have posted before and would like to see what advise you would provide me.
I have a full time job and we have been married for 36 years. I have been her care giver and happy to do so for the last 5 years. She is on many meds for Fibro pain and bipolar.
Recently, she and I discussed our future plans and she shocked me with: "I need to be alone and heal from all of the guilt I have." "I am going to my parents (whom are aging) til I feel better(6 months)." She informed her friend that she was separating from me and would she would take it day to day. They live 14 hours away)
She has always been connected to her family and we have moved there twice. I am close to her parents as well. I struggle with the finality of this decision and we never really spoke about an extended separation as she did with her friend. She mentioned I deserve better and the support I give her makes her feel worse. She struggles with communication at times but never saw this one coming! I am, I guess the root of these feeling she has. When I inquired about all of this she told me her parents are the most important thing right now, you can take care of yourself. In the past 3 years she has spent at least on month on 3 separate occasions with her parents.
How do we work on us if she is not here!
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