cyberpuppet
Member
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2014
- Messages
- 27
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 04/2006
- Country
- UK
- State
- Wiltshire
I am sick to death of being treated like an idiot who does not have 2 brain cells to rub together and who should not try to involve themselves with adult conversation.
My OH is technical geek - but I have since having fibro taught myself a fair amount about web design and programming and I have an understanding of things that is different from and should compliment his but if I try making a suggestion I get a condescending explanation of how he is failing to fix the problem with the implication that I cannot contribute because I do not understand.
It is not just my OH and not just technical stuff (it is simply a technical matter that has just bought this to a head). There are plenty of areas where my knowledge is more extensive than others but it so often seems that family and some friends view me as totally useless on everything. I have them telling me what design software I should be using when I am the one who uses it and they have no interest in design. I should do this with money, that with washing the other with cooking when actually I am not the one having problems.
Ironically complete strangers have more respect for my knowledge - probably because the only time I am likely to give advice to complete strangers is on the days when I can move relatively easily and talk properly without the fibro fog jumble of not being able to get a word out. Of course when I was able to work and socialize outside of the home I was less dependent on family and close friends for self image input but now it really gets my goat.
My brain does still work.
My OH is technical geek - but I have since having fibro taught myself a fair amount about web design and programming and I have an understanding of things that is different from and should compliment his but if I try making a suggestion I get a condescending explanation of how he is failing to fix the problem with the implication that I cannot contribute because I do not understand.
It is not just my OH and not just technical stuff (it is simply a technical matter that has just bought this to a head). There are plenty of areas where my knowledge is more extensive than others but it so often seems that family and some friends view me as totally useless on everything. I have them telling me what design software I should be using when I am the one who uses it and they have no interest in design. I should do this with money, that with washing the other with cooking when actually I am not the one having problems.
Ironically complete strangers have more respect for my knowledge - probably because the only time I am likely to give advice to complete strangers is on the days when I can move relatively easily and talk properly without the fibro fog jumble of not being able to get a word out. Of course when I was able to work and socialize outside of the home I was less dependent on family and close friends for self image input but now it really gets my goat.
My brain does still work.