Karr888
New member
- Joined
- Apr 16, 2016
- Messages
- 5
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 05/2010
- Country
- US
- State
- CA
Well I've had fibromyalgia for the past 6 years 1 month 10 days. I only feel getting worst and everything I try I have to say has only helped my drastic swelling. I would swell up to 20lb in one day to another but know it's about 5lb to 8lb. I feel this is a great accomplishment and I hope my body keeps responding this way.
My complaint is about my husband requesting sex everyday. Since we where a very sexual couple, I will always give in. I do let him know I don't enjoy it because the pain is to overwhelming but he tells me he will be quick (he is). I have showed him videos, interviews of people with fibromyalgia, my primary Doctor talked to him, my pain Doctor explain to him how much pain I'm in and I even had a spiritualist explain to him I might develop anger and resentment and a whole other of negative feelings. However, he simply tells me he rather me not cook or deep clean the house and in exchange for sex. So as you see I've tried everything I can think of to get him to understand it's not good to have me "just do it." Like he tells me but it seems he rather take the risk of me resenting him than go a few days without sex. I'm to the point where I am taking anxiety medication half an hour before we have sex. We are not newlyweds, we have been married 8 years going on 9 years. I have turned him down for sex a few times but I think I can count those times with my fingers.
Does anyone have this problem with their spouses and if so how do handle it. I love my husband and we have never thought or spoken of divorce, so that's not an option for me. I think I give him the sex so he won't go looking for it somewhere else. I know I have the last say but I feel guilty and I give in.
I hope I didn't offend anyone but I really need to hear some feed back about this issue. I'm sure I'm not the only one going through this. Thank you ahead of time for whoever takes the time to respond to my nagging.
My complaint is about my husband requesting sex everyday. Since we where a very sexual couple, I will always give in. I do let him know I don't enjoy it because the pain is to overwhelming but he tells me he will be quick (he is). I have showed him videos, interviews of people with fibromyalgia, my primary Doctor talked to him, my pain Doctor explain to him how much pain I'm in and I even had a spiritualist explain to him I might develop anger and resentment and a whole other of negative feelings. However, he simply tells me he rather me not cook or deep clean the house and in exchange for sex. So as you see I've tried everything I can think of to get him to understand it's not good to have me "just do it." Like he tells me but it seems he rather take the risk of me resenting him than go a few days without sex. I'm to the point where I am taking anxiety medication half an hour before we have sex. We are not newlyweds, we have been married 8 years going on 9 years. I have turned him down for sex a few times but I think I can count those times with my fingers.
Does anyone have this problem with their spouses and if so how do handle it. I love my husband and we have never thought or spoken of divorce, so that's not an option for me. I think I give him the sex so he won't go looking for it somewhere else. I know I have the last say but I feel guilty and I give in.
I hope I didn't offend anyone but I really need to hear some feed back about this issue. I'm sure I'm not the only one going through this. Thank you ahead of time for whoever takes the time to respond to my nagging.