I hired a housekeeper for a year or so. But she quit because I kept canceling when I had a flare and couldn't pick up before she came over:-? I know, I know but I have issues
But it did help get me in a bit of a routine. I have 3 kids so I have assigned them chores. I actuall have an entire list. Broken down by child. That way everyone knows who is responsible for what. Is this an option for you?For example, My youngest son 6 feeds the dogs, let's them in and out when he is not at school and helps empty
The dishwasher. He also dusts. My 12y dd empties the dishwasher, takes out the trash, and picks up the dog poop, and vacuums the upstairs. There are a few other things in the lists and they rarely take the kids more than 10-15 a day. They know if they haven't completed them by Sunday they lose their electronics. My oldest dd is now in high school so she can do a lot if needed. She pitches in with the laundry, vacuuming, and will even cook dinner when needed I am sure to treat her to an extra sleepover, girls night, or splurge on letting her get her nails done or getting the more expensive prom dress. This is understood the more helpful they
Are around the house, the more they show they can be responsible the more I am likely to reward ( ok let's be honest bribe) them later.
If I am having a bad day I make sure the dishwasher is loaded and started. I may empty it, sometimes takes me several sessions, with breaks. I usually try to do one load of laundry even if it's really small.
If I am having a really dad day nothing gets done.