LivetoErr
Distinguished member
- Joined
- Jan 15, 2014
- Messages
- 137
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 06/2012
- Country
- CA
- State
- AB
I've had autoimmune issues since I was 8 years old. I'm 34 now, so I've been 'sick' longer than I haven't been. It's a way of life and I can hide it pretty darn well.
My parents have retired in Mexico and I spend, at least, the winters there, with them. The stable and not cold weather makes a huge difference on my pain levels.
On Thursday, a friend's family members came to visit, as their aunt, who is down here for 3 weeks visiting her son, was turning 88 Saturday (yesterday).
On Friday, we took them to the beach. We go three times a week to run our dogs. I had some in my car and my parents had some in their car. One of the girls, in my moms car, asked what I did for a living. I'm not entirely sure what my mom answered but the girls response was, "it must be nice living like you're on a permanent vacation". My mom explained that I was on somewhat of a disability and that was the end of the conversation.
Yesterday, I went over to the friends house because I was going to be playing chauffeur. We had to wait around for some stuff to happen before we headed into town. The girl started asking me questions which I answered. At the end of everything, she said it to me, that it must be nice to live like you're always on vacation. It took me less than a second to reply, "I'd much rather not be sick and able to work for a living". She really didn't know how to respond to that.
I'm just so sick of the 'but you don't look sick attitude' of some people. It would have been fine, if the girl left it at her conversation with my mom. My friend didn't explain the full extent of what goes on with me, so it's understandable she had some questions. However, once my mom told her, that should have been the end of those comments.
I'm more than happy to explain what I go through, what I have and how I feel. Just don't tell me I'm on a vacation because I don't work. I don't live in Mexico 24/7 but, if I can escape the yo-yo like weather of where I live, why wouldn't I?
My parents have retired in Mexico and I spend, at least, the winters there, with them. The stable and not cold weather makes a huge difference on my pain levels.
On Thursday, a friend's family members came to visit, as their aunt, who is down here for 3 weeks visiting her son, was turning 88 Saturday (yesterday).
On Friday, we took them to the beach. We go three times a week to run our dogs. I had some in my car and my parents had some in their car. One of the girls, in my moms car, asked what I did for a living. I'm not entirely sure what my mom answered but the girls response was, "it must be nice living like you're on a permanent vacation". My mom explained that I was on somewhat of a disability and that was the end of the conversation.
Yesterday, I went over to the friends house because I was going to be playing chauffeur. We had to wait around for some stuff to happen before we headed into town. The girl started asking me questions which I answered. At the end of everything, she said it to me, that it must be nice to live like you're always on vacation. It took me less than a second to reply, "I'd much rather not be sick and able to work for a living". She really didn't know how to respond to that.
I'm just so sick of the 'but you don't look sick attitude' of some people. It would have been fine, if the girl left it at her conversation with my mom. My friend didn't explain the full extent of what goes on with me, so it's understandable she had some questions. However, once my mom told her, that should have been the end of those comments.
I'm more than happy to explain what I go through, what I have and how I feel. Just don't tell me I'm on a vacation because I don't work. I don't live in Mexico 24/7 but, if I can escape the yo-yo like weather of where I live, why wouldn't I?