I think it is really helpful to have someone to talk to. Sometimes it feels like you are really alone. Your friends and family get sick of listening to all of your various complaints that change from day to day. I don't think people can really understand what the pain feels like unless you have it! I think it would help for someone to help find a way that we could spend time together that isn't always something physical. I was very active and my friends are bicyclists, hikers, skiers etc. I feel like I don't have any friends left cause I can't go with them anymore, ya know what I mean? You are a good brother for taking the time and effort to try and find a way to help! It really is a change of lifestyle and you have to learn a whole new way to live and it takes a long time-it does for me anyway! Lots of grieving so just continue to be there for him and let him know you love him!