I will tell you how I handle rude and uncaring or just plain stressful people in my life. I learned this long ago when I had to deal with a very nasty hateful sister-inlaw. It is called, " learn to play the game." Some people seem to enjoy making us do all the work or making constant demands, or sometimes just running us down and hurting our feelings. It gives them power over us when we respond by getting upset or mad, or crying. They seem to take a special delight in making us feel guilty for the things we are unable to do or how we do them.
I used to get so stressed when my relative would say I was doing things just to get the family money. The thing was I had more money then my husband, and was not out to take anything from anyone. So my feelings were hurt and I cried a lot. Plus my husband would not defend me he just said that is just the way this person is and he even joked about it. So I learned to play the game.
What you need to do when around such people is put on a brave front. When they say things that cause you stress, just take a deep breath and say oh your so funny, the things you say. then laugh and walk away. After a few times of this it usually makes them a bit shocked and unsure of how to attack or make you feel bad. You will own the power and they will not be controlling your emotions anymore.
I am not saying that it is easy. The best you can do is avoid being alone with them. Surround yourself with good family members and don't let them see you cry or get upset. When they start talking in a fashion that upsets you walk away. If you can't leave then change the subject. Do your best to act normally as if what they do does not affect you. After a while they will either change their behavior or notice your not affected by their comments anymore and leave you alone.
Please read the sections where we talk about managing stress and ways you can relax.
So walk away or make a joke about what they say about you, or look them right in the eye and laugh, then walk away. If they truely care about you then they will treat you better as time goes on. When you are alone you can cry or write your feelings down in a journel, or pray about it or come here and we will try and cheer you up the best way we can.
It is going to be okay.