My problem that I would love to know the answer to is how the hell can I control the fatigue.
Hi feefee,
The problem with a question like this is that, very unfortunately, there really isn't an answer.
That doesn't mean there's absolutely nothing you can do that might help, but it does mean that no one can tell you, "just do this" and it will help with the fatigue. Most of us experience unreasonable fatigue with fibromyalgia. I know I do, and it is hard to take because I used to be a person with more energy than anyone else I knew.
there are two things I can tell you, and can only hope that it might help.
The first is, the healthier you are overall the better off you will be. this doesn't just mean eating what people think of as a healthy diet, it means eating the most healthy diet for
you. Whether this mean more meat, less meat, no sugar, more vegetables, a plant based diet, no gluten, certain grains but not others, ......only you can find that out for yourself and the only way to find out is to experiment. Generally cutting out all processed foods and sugar and alcohol is a very good first step if you haven't already done that. After that, doing your own experimenting with your diet will show you what foods give you more energy and which ones deplete your energy. And of course, doing your best to get enough rest and removing toxic people and circumstances from your life can help as well.
The other thing is hard. It's acceptance. This is something that we all need to come to one way or another because the more we fight against the facts of our diminished levels of energy and the more we hate it and feel bad or sad or guilty or any other negative emotion about it, the more of our energy is being used up with that and that is a waste. Acceptance doesn't mean complacency or giving up or approval, it just means that we accept what is, in this moment. And if that is something we don't like, then we accept that we don't like it.
There's no way to "control" the fatigue. But we can do everything possible.....what is possible to do today, which might be different from yesterday or tomorrow.....to accept it and to take the best possible care of ourselves.
If you haven't read that post of mine yet, I do recommend it. There are a lot of ideas there to get you started.
And of course, telling someone who has extreme fatigue to go take a walk sounds completely crazy, and there are times when that is literally impossible. But actually, if you can get yourself out for a little walk whenever you actually
are able to do so, you may find that the effects carry over in a positive way.