Lyndsey
Active member
- Joined
- Dec 18, 2014
- Messages
- 89
- Reason
- DX FIBRO
- Diagnosis
- 04/2014
- Country
- CA
- State
- British Columbia
Sick of people saying " Well you look fine, you would never know" (and off work)
Ok, so I guess this is more a vent type post.....Anyone else out there feel major frustration when people say " wow you look great, your really feeling that bad eh?" Not that it is a bad thing to look ok, I mean I would rather look ok than look how I actually feel. But man, I find it frustrating and almost like people don't believe me or something. Sometimes I look at myself and think I look like complete SH#@! I guess it is because that is how I feel 99 percent of the time. I find these comments especially hard when they come from my old co workers that I see for coffee now and again.
I find that these comments, though probably meant in the most sincere way, make me feel like people think I am lying (this bothers alot and wish people could see it sometimes so hard having an invisible illness, I know I am preaching to the choir lol). It could also be my paranoia which I am notorious for. Constantly worrying about the thoughts of others, a nasty trait that I have always had.
Guess I'm just looking to relate with some people. I feel bad enough as it is being off work... Can't get rid of that feeling no matter how hard I try. Ive been off work about 9 months now and that feeling doesn't go away, but I know that with the severity of my symptoms I couldn't work right now the way I was before. It got to a point I just couldn't take it anymore. Sometimes it makes me feel like such a weak person that I am unable to work right now. Anyone else go from being a very motivated hard working person, to this....Not working.
Continuing to go to church every week which is really helpful, although I find that once I leave church that uplifting feeling is gone the second I get home. Wish I could find a way to feel positive and worry less of the time.
I am sorry for those of you who have read a couple of my other posts if I sound like a broken record!
Hope everyone is doing ok tonight
Thoughts and prayers with everyone
Lynds
Ok, so I guess this is more a vent type post.....Anyone else out there feel major frustration when people say " wow you look great, your really feeling that bad eh?" Not that it is a bad thing to look ok, I mean I would rather look ok than look how I actually feel. But man, I find it frustrating and almost like people don't believe me or something. Sometimes I look at myself and think I look like complete SH#@! I guess it is because that is how I feel 99 percent of the time. I find these comments especially hard when they come from my old co workers that I see for coffee now and again.
I find that these comments, though probably meant in the most sincere way, make me feel like people think I am lying (this bothers alot and wish people could see it sometimes so hard having an invisible illness, I know I am preaching to the choir lol). It could also be my paranoia which I am notorious for. Constantly worrying about the thoughts of others, a nasty trait that I have always had.
Guess I'm just looking to relate with some people. I feel bad enough as it is being off work... Can't get rid of that feeling no matter how hard I try. Ive been off work about 9 months now and that feeling doesn't go away, but I know that with the severity of my symptoms I couldn't work right now the way I was before. It got to a point I just couldn't take it anymore. Sometimes it makes me feel like such a weak person that I am unable to work right now. Anyone else go from being a very motivated hard working person, to this....Not working.
Continuing to go to church every week which is really helpful, although I find that once I leave church that uplifting feeling is gone the second I get home. Wish I could find a way to feel positive and worry less of the time.
I am sorry for those of you who have read a couple of my other posts if I sound like a broken record!
Hope everyone is doing ok tonight
Thoughts and prayers with everyone
Lynds