Hi JewlZ, and welcome
- Wow, a ton on your plate!
Any little bit of activity (including walking thru our flat for a minute) making me fatigued and nauseous, sometimes dizzy, is something I have for months after the jabs in connection with the MCAS it's triggered - not from fibro. MCAS tho would mean more general oversensitivities which for instance react favourably to an antihistamine as well as a set of supps.
I'm not sure if the 22 years of pain & fatigue has been just the 3 cancer bouts. But 3 times alone will be more and more taxing for your body. And the 3rd one was a different form, maybe leaving a different mark - plus: you/they sure it's 'gone'?
Still, I'd be pushing for further diagnosis - but whether fibro or no is now much too vague to say. Your pain is probably widespread enough, even as an ache, but what about further severe symptoms aside from fatigue and fog, like insomnia and IBS?
Even if they were fibro symptoms it can be a lot more of other conditions, like autoimmune stuff.
It can also be fibro at the same time, just the question if that can point you to helpful treatments or help like disability/work relief.
We don't really see many people seeing cancer triggered fibro, maybe because people tend to just blame it on the cancer.
You can't blame it on the cancer anymore, but can your docs?
Very understandable that you haven't gone back to work yet with all this. That's another reason to get it checked.
But why and how that'd be affecting your
marriage is something which "surprises" me all the more (not), and I'd go to marriage counselling and/or own counselling or therapy for, to sort that out and improve it before it's too late. But maybe it's just the communication of your symptoms now they have no "visible" cause, and for that you might like to look at the
"How to understand people with chronic pain" thread.
In case you'd like ideas what to do about the crashes before having sorted the triggers and effects out:
Your sweet spots and limits are obviously much lower than before, so adjusting your pacing so that you "never" crash is the main thing to do as long as you haven't found your supps to decrease this.
In the months after the jabs I hardly move around, however make sure I do regular stints of exercises and stretches to keep fit, then start stints of activity low and go slow.
Sunkacola's advice post at the top of the forum may help you with that.
For the nausea some can take ginger,
I take homeopathic nux vomica D12, but essentially I need to make sure I move less, or rather less intensely or if possible intense, but short.
And for energy, ache, fog etc. there's a load of supps you could try too. Meds often don't get that deep and cause more side effects.