- Apr 9, 2013
Hi I just wanted to get some things off my chest and hopefully feel better by doing so. I guess I am after some advice on what others think I should do. My partner has resently had lung surgery, he had a small cancer removed from his lower left lung. When this was tested he was told it wasn't lung cancer but melanoma. How can this be, he hasn't had anything removed that was in anyway cancerous. He is a smoker and has been quitting for 3 months now using patches. He still smoked while using the patches before the opperation and was cutting down and I thought he was doing well but then I asked him if he had been smoking one day and he said he hadn't for a few weeks but I smelt it on him when he came home almost daily and I still smell it on him even now sometimes, 2 weeks after his surgery. If I mention this to him he tells me he hasn't smoked since a few weeks before his operation. The thing that gets to me the most is that he isn't telling me the truth. If he is still going to smoke why is he trying to keep it from me? Thats what I would like to know. Also he is nearly always in a bad mood, saying he is tired and in pain. I know he has quite a bit of pain and I know this will make him tired. I have fibromyalgia I understand this proberly better than he does but it upsets me so much when he rants and raves about it constantly. Even our dog runs and hides when he starts. I am trying to be understanding and suportive because I know he must be worring about having cancer and not knowing anything about where it is or why it showed up in his lung but I am loosing the battle. He won't talk about any of this with me and I worry it is affecting our relationship. Please if anyone has any ideas that they think might help please let me know.